hey nonnie I got your other ask but I wanted to answer this anyway, haha. I didn’t find it rude at all, so don’t worry!
Jurdan is almost entirely based on headcanon. By the end of The Cruel Prince, we’ve seen them set up a bit (and had some amazing scenes filled to the brim with sexual tension), but there’s still a lot more that needs to happen between them before I’d be comfortable with them being canon. Luckily for myself and other Jurdan shippers, there are still two more books planned. Plenty of time for them to work through all their shit! But for now, we like to think about what they could be and headcanon cute scenes and angst, basically whatever you do with a ship that isn’t entirely canon yet.
The way I look at it, and how I said it to some of the ladies in the book club the other day, is that Jurdan right now is basically pre-ACOMAF Feysand. I wasn’t in the fandom until after ACOWAR so I don’t know for sure, but I’m willing to bet that a lot of people didn’t understand the shipping of Feysand at the end of ACOTAR. They probably felt a lot like you do about Jurdan, which is completely understandable and valid! I’m just waiting on my Jurdan ACOMAF with hopes that they will work through everything set up in TCP.
So basically: we don’t ship Jurdan for what they necessarily are right now, but for what they could be with some development!